Anger

Suppressing anger — we become passive.

Exploding with anger — we become unreliable.

Transforming anger — we become effective.

We get angry when:

• Our boundaries are crossed

• We don’t express our expectations

• We accumulate tension

• We don’t have a safe way to express ourselves

Anger manifests as:

• Physical tension (neck, shoulders, jaw), headaches, fatigue, etc.

• Sarcasm, procrastination, conflict avoidance

• People-pleasing, fear of saying “no,” loss of energy after interacting with others

• Overreacting to small things, followed by self-blame and shame

• Inner thoughts like: “better stay silent,” “I don’t want trouble”

• Voice raised or narrow, suppressed

What to do when I recognize that I am angry?

• Move the emotion into the body in a safe way — through active movement, breathing, sounds of anger, or an anger song.

• Clarify the direction:

  What does this anger want to change?

  Which boundary was crossed?

  What action would be constructive?

  
  

• Integrate:

  What will I do differently now?

  
  

What to do when I don’t recognize that I am angry?

• See a psychotherapist. Allow a person to act as a mirror in a safe relationship to carry your fear, shame, guilt, learned survival patterns, and beliefs.

Anger is necessary, as is learning to be with anger and in anger. Otherwise, we risk our reputation, critical decision-making, boundaries, and our relationship with ourselves and others.

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